May be a stupid question to ask here, if so just ignore me, but are you cleaning the tubing before you start welding. Lots of that stuff comes with a oily covering to hold off rust. Send a picture of your flame at the welding configuration your using, if you can...that may give more info to work with.
Question, this kit came with a VM-W-0 tip. Trying to adjust to a neutral flame, the flame is a narrow cone, quiet, not positive about the color (i'm colorblind) and close to 12" long. Is that normal? Seems like a long flame. Does a 00 tip produce less flame length and would that be easier for me to learn with? Also, I seem to be getting a lot of slag. I'm not sure where those chucks of metal in the pic came from but it was from me welding.
Regarding the flame, You can see in the pic the flame goes out almost 13".